Yes, Feedback Hurts

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I had to take a dose of my own medicine recently.

I tell my coaching clients that critical feedback is a gift, an opportunity for growth, insight into a potential blindspot.

Yeah, whatever. It also feels like a kick to the stomach.

I recently gave a talk on confidence and “impostor syndrome,” topics that come up frequently in my coaching practice. As part of the presentation, I told personal stories to illustrate what impostor syndrome looks like and how to self-coach for confidence.

Afterward, as I was quietly nursing a vulnerability hangover, as Brene Brown says, I received an email from one the participants. She wrote to tell me that she had counted the number of times I said “um” while I was presenting…

(Read the rest of the story at The Seattle Times.)