The Squeaky Wheel

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“My daughter needs to ask her soccer coach for more playing time,” my friend said as we watched our girls at soccer practice. “She’ll never do it, though — it’s too scary.”

I wish she would do it anyway. It’s good practice for her future career.

A coaching client was talking about the corporate equivalent of “playing time”: She didn’t get a promotion she felt she had earned.

“I need to talk to my manager and understand what I did wrong,” said my client, a top-performing senior manager at a multinational firm.

“What if you did nothing wrong?” I asked her. “What if your mistake is not speaking up?”

“I’ve avoided these kinds of conversations my entire career,” she mused. “I thought my work spoke for itself.” (That’s an assumption that makes my head explode.)

(Read the rest of the story at The Seattle Times.)