Barefoot Resolution

I just completed a New Year’s Resolution. Back in January, I resolved to run my 2 ½ mile loop barefoot. No Vibrams. Just barefoot.  Six months later, I did it. And you’d think I was running topless. The askance looks and comments I get. Even a toddler loudly asked his mom as I ran past, “Why is that lady running ...

Flinch

I flinched. I went blonde again. It all started when I was talking to a nice couple at the playground. The guy looked vaguely familiar. We eventually figured out that we’d gone to business school together. Graduated in the same class. He didn’t recognize me. That’s a bit of a hit: I like to think I make more of an ...

I Want That

I had lunch with a colleague recently. He asked me what kind of issues I’m working on with my coaching clients. I told him* about a favorite client who emails me at 5 a.m. every morning. This particular client’s life flows better if he gets up early, goes to the gym, and then heads to work. He beats himself up ...

The Best Thing About Mommy

I found a treasure as I was sorting through my kids’ school work. Tucked among a pile of papers was a note from my daughter. In her careful handwriting, my 5-year-old had written, “The best thing about Mommy is that she quit her job.” That’s a keeper.

It Was Never Locked

A friend recently sought my help as a coach. She was feeling trapped and miserable in her job and her life. We talked through her options. I asked questions. I listened for the “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts” and “have tos.” That was all. She told me later that she had a vision as she was falling asleep that night. She saw ...

Housework: Housewife :: Email: Middle Manager

Housework is my guilty secret. I find it deeply satisfying keeping my house in order. A clean house feels reassuring. But I’ve been thinking about the balance between keeping my house clean and getting anything else done. Housework is a lot like email was in my corporate jobs. Never ending. You could spend all your time on it. Never get ...

Old Excuses

I bumped into a favorite coaching client of mine yesterday. He exclaimed, “Guess where I’ve been!” I hadn’t a clue. I was feeling a little down, a little self defeated. My last day with Amazon is today and maybe I was feeling a little shaky about what I was walking away from. My client said, “I just got back from ...

Following My Dream

I started writing this blog after I made the decision to walk away from my career in corporate America. This was not a decision I made lightly: I had invested a great deal into that career. But it was time to focus on my coaching practice. And I wanted to spend more time with my small children. It was time to ...

Rattlesnake Premonition

I went for a trail run in rattlesnake country and almost died. A friend and I ran through the meadow at the top of this photo and up into the valley beyond. This is way out in Eastern Washington. Where it’s hot and sunny, if you can imagine. We saw a dead rattlesnake on the road as we were jogging ...

Accountability

I’ve been thinking about accountability. I have three coaching clients who talk to me about their weight. Possibly with some help from me, they are making significant changes in their lives. Awesome changes to their habits and self image and priorities. I then go home and eat (organic!) oreos and feel fat. I hadn’t talked about it with anyone (like ...

A Favorite Day

I had a birthday this week. Birthdays used to be more exciting somehow. But well-wishers hoped that I would do something special. So I decided to make it a favorite day. Highlights included writing in my favorite café, running with my daughter on her bike in the sunshine, and making pancakes with the kids for dinner. Lowlights included freezing my ...

The Dungeon of Spit

“Oh we don’t need stakes. It’s not going to rain.” Rookie mistake. The sound of rain pattering on the tent is a lovely sound; the sound of rain pattering inside the tent not so much. We went on our first camping trip of the summer last weekend. I’ve always wanted to go to the Dungeness Spit, a 300-foot wide spit ...

Getting Back Up

I got knocked down recently. And now I’m getting back up. A month ago an anonymous visitor left several comments here. The comments seemed mean spirited and personal. And the benevolent place where I was casting these writings changed into something creepy and critical. That’s not a place I enjoy visiting. It’s a barren place, an enervating place. The magic of creating ...

A Kid Named Doc

I read with a first grader at my kids’ school last week. He told me he has the same name as his grandpa. And that both his father and his grandfather are in heaven. We read a book about a kid whose father works in an automobile factory. As we read, the boy confidently identified the different makes of cars. “That’s ...

The Value of Ivy

I got in a fight and learned something about myself. The fight had to do with invasive ivy along my property line. I ripped it out and angered my neighbor. This conflict has upset me. A lot. I was talking about this conflict with a coaching colleague of mine. I fear I’ve behaved badly. I’m deeply saddened that I destroyed ...